WHY coaching may be for you
Because you are worth it to be listened to. Besides, your perspective counts for all of us.
BOOST YOUR ENERGY
Are you fed up? What swamp do you find yourself in? And do you want it all radically different for once and for all?
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE
- what energizes you and why
- in what "black hole" you sink
- what story you tell yourself
- what theme underlies it all
- what it is you can do now
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BREAKTHROUGHS
Do you find you are not getting what life should give you? Do you talk about it? Or are you too afraid?
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE
- what it is you long for mostly
- the talent beyond your blocks
- what may feel fragile with you
- what didn't work so far and why
- what solution may work for you
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LIVE YOUR LIFE FULLY
Do you frequently worry? Do you find yourself again at that one crossroad in your personal and work relations?
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE
- the habits/patterns that return
- what touches you most deeply
- what belongs to you or others
- your role within the dynamics
- your deepest life purpose/call
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Oscar's way of facilitation is like a shell. With his key insights and silence, he lets you hear and listen to your own music. It's well worth your time spent. Recommended.
Bianca Bernecker, Global Ethics Manager TNT/FedEx
WHY choose to work with me?
It is my sincerest wish to authentically connect with wherever you are in this moment.
SYSTEMIC PERSPECTIVE
Yesterday's solution will be today's problem. What do you need now to try something completely different?
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE
- the origins of your question(s)
- what your life revolves around
- who you are loyal to and why
- what is up to you or another
- how it all comes together
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HEAD-HEART-HANDS
When your body is your hardware and your thoughts and feelings are your software, how are you doing?
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE
- what deep down is alive in you
- what pleasure/pain you avoid
- what lies beyond your quirks
- how you can trust yourself
- what blocks/supports you
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AUTHENTIC CONNECTION
Change starts from within. We've got to update our inner navigation maps to find other routes and pathways.
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE
- where you really find yourself
- what you think or worry about
- what's truthful in our interaction
- how you can stay with your core
- what your life is worth living for
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Oscar combines his playful enthusiasm with patience and openness. This is how he creates a setting that invites for critical self-reflection. Oscar has helped me walk new, adventurous paths into both my professional career and my creative work life.
Igor Bogaert, manager logistics Brocacef and opera singer
WHAT are you most welcome with?
Anything goes. The more heavy, vague, or complex your issue, the more worthwhile it is.
PERSONAL QUESTIONS
Do you walk around with something that seems to never change? What is it that you secretly keep for yourself?
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE:
- what bothers you mostly
- what you want to change
- what it is that blocks you
- what you want more of
- what you'd love to solve
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WORK AND TEAM ISSUES
What issues come back time after time? How can we realise break-throughs and work together?
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TOGETHER WE EXPLORE:
- what we do not want to look at
- the theme that underlies it all
- intractable habits and patterns
- organizational/team dynamics
- clarity on solutions/directions
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ORGANISATIONAL ISSUES
What intractable patterns lie within the social DNA of our organization? What social tissue do we need here?
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TOGETHER WE CLARIFY
- how to build your work culture
- what lies behind (mis) behavior
- why change does not engage all
- what improves the collaboration
- how to re-position your business
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It was the evening after Oscar's coaching session that I finally slept well again, which was a long time ago! I was deeply impressed with the bigger perspective. Seeing this being formed in front of my eyes, I could see the patterns, themes, and dynamics coming back, and how these are passed on from generation to generation, also by me as a mother. Oscar's questions helped me unexpectedly connect my past with my life today.
Sandra Meijers, study, job- en lifecoach
WHAT can you expect?
I am working one on one, with teams, departments, but also with global institutions.
A NATURE WALK
Do you love being outside? Me too! When the weather is good, we go out.
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AN APPOINTMENT
Do you like it to be informal? Let's meet at your place, or in a bar!
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A CONSTELLATION
Do you want to process, feel, and breakthrough your life's theme?
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TEAM COACHING
What tension is alive within your team? Where do you get stuck with each other? What would create flow?
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COACHING TRAJECTORY
Are you looking for internal alignment, conflict mediation, or inter-functional collaboration?
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BUSINESS TRAJECTORY
Are you working on a strategic transformation process and do you want the social tissue to move along?
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A constellation asks you to take in a position. The play-mobil figures put down are like a mirror: it all came together. Within a disarming, equitable atmosphere, I discovered something I already knew but had not yet put into action. This way of exploration is different from someone “telling you what to do”, something you already knew. For me, a field of creative destruction opened itself; and a new reality could unfold itself.
Peter Creemers, innovation strategist, a.o. with Achmea and P2
VISIT one of my open evenings
Experience me as a coach, get to know systemic facilitation, and learn more about yourself.
- Feb04Thu7:00 pm → 10:00 pmDe Nieuwe Poort, Claude Debussylaan 2, 1082 MD Amsterdam, NetherlandsFamilieopstellingen Avond€95.00available
- Feb25Thu7:00 pm → 10:00 pmDe Nieuwe Poort, Claude Debussylaan 2, 1082 MD Amsterdam, NetherlandsFamilieopstellingen Avond€95.00available
It’s special how Oscar can make a room full of “strangers” grow close to each other. Nothing goes unnoticed with him. Due to him I finally have the words for what I already knew. Besides, I can now also share it in a way that my colleagues can hear it as well.
Janneke (original name different), working at a Dutch insurance company
LET'S do a coaching trajectory
Work with me one-on-one, as a couple, as a team, and across your business or industry.
session 1 Table Constellation
With play-mobil we quickly visualize the life story you tell yourself. This is how you get the big picture until now.
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- What is your life's story?
- What pattern comes back?
- What is your life's theme?
- What is your key question?
- What is your "big life task"?
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session 2 Internal Landscape Map
With A4s on the ground, we map your innermost experience. What emotional shortcuts do you take?
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- When does your mind speak?
- What belongs to you/others?
- Who are you without ballast?
- What does "belong to you"?
- What is it you are noticing?
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session 3 Group Constellations Evening
You are now well prepared to have a group resonate with your inner world. What does "your mirror" reflect back?
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- What is it that you relate to?
- What is new information?
- What sticks/touches you?
- Can you surrender to it?
- What needs to still sink in?
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Oscar has helped me break through this emotional barrier I felt about actually fully living my passion. For a long time I’ve circled around my ideas. Now they are alive though. I have created my own job at work. Besides, I’ve started my own therapy practice. In addition, I've integrated my longing for my twin sister as well as my thinking into the person that I am today. Keywords for Oscar's style of working are: respect, no-nonsense, and revealing. With him you can go for what it is that you really want.
Tanja van Dongen, vitality coach 's Heeren Loo and professional therapist with her own practice
ARE YOU constantly triggered?
Individually, in pairs, or in groups, I take your tension away so that a new start is possible.

If “moving along with what is” would be an art form, Oscar would be your example. A dialogue with him you experience as a very open conversation with depth, and where appropriate, mixed with humor. Nothing is off-topic – it’s what Oscar is very precise at.
Michiel Kuijpers, owner and consultant at FreeQ
JOIN my Amsterdam training
Deepen your own professional practice with the systemic principles and methodology.
Oscar is warm, present, and tuned into you. He resonates deeply with the systemic (family) field. His quirks and his inner child make it fun to work with him. In his own search for integration of his adult and child selves, he helps you see your deepest blindspots. With him you face your family past as well as all your present relations.
Jacqueline de Vries, family and organisational constellator Lichtcentrum Amsterdam
CONSULT ME within business
As an external trust person, I create employee experience maps (go to video). What is alive?
Oscar combines his intelligent sharpness with an intuition to know where the personal and group process move towards. Wisdom and humor are Oscar's main ingredients. Intermixed, they both function as triggers for deeper self-reflection and insight.
Niels Koldewijn, director Elos Foundation and social entrepreneur with Fair Ground
BECOME a business partner
My clients work in the for and non-profit sector, in government, and branchwide coalitions.




